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elyseHas anyone ever done something so horrible to you that "I'm sorry" couldn't fix it?
Oooh yes!
Actually, the person didn't even say "I'm sorry", because she didn't realize that she had made a huge mistake.
But if she were to say "I'm sorry", the damage done couldn't have been fixed in any way.
I'll explain more.
To protect the identity of those involved, I will be as ambiguous as possible.
A few years ago, I was horribly backstabbed. By a -supposedly- good friend whom I trusted with all my heart, who chose to backstab me over someone else that wasn't worth the effort, to begin with. It was proven right in front of our eyes only a few days after that backstabbing incident. But she didn't realize the damage she had done to me, not to mention that she didn't realize making the big mistake in the first place. It might not have meant anything to her, but it meant a great deal to me, because friendship starts from complete trust, at least for me.
See, I'm the type of person who can trust completely, until I'm cheated or find out that I shouldn't have trusted anyone that much in the first place. As I grew older, I was struck by the reality that, even though I've been so trusting all this time, people don't reciprocate or appreciate that effort.
So I learned a life lesson the hard way.
And even though I did forgive her by heart (without saying anything to her, because she didn't realize anything in the first place), I didn't forget the backstabbing incident. Memory cannot be erased; good or bad. And I have such a good memory, too! I couldn't deliberately push that memory into my subconsciousness, even if I wanted to so much.
I have, since then, become very careful in my relationship to her.
And deep inside my heart, I could never be the same Elyse again to her.
Maybe she did realize that I changed over time.
But as to what reason, she wasn't really clear.
C'est la vie.
And life goes on.
I'm still the same trustful Elyse, just maybe that quality decreases a bit.
Oooh yes!
Actually, the person didn't even say "I'm sorry", because she didn't realize that she had made a huge mistake.
But if she were to say "I'm sorry", the damage done couldn't have been fixed in any way.
I'll explain more.
To protect the identity of those involved, I will be as ambiguous as possible.
A few years ago, I was horribly backstabbed. By a -supposedly- good friend whom I trusted with all my heart, who chose to backstab me over someone else that wasn't worth the effort, to begin with. It was proven right in front of our eyes only a few days after that backstabbing incident. But she didn't realize the damage she had done to me, not to mention that she didn't realize making the big mistake in the first place. It might not have meant anything to her, but it meant a great deal to me, because friendship starts from complete trust, at least for me.
See, I'm the type of person who can trust completely, until I'm cheated or find out that I shouldn't have trusted anyone that much in the first place. As I grew older, I was struck by the reality that, even though I've been so trusting all this time, people don't reciprocate or appreciate that effort.
So I learned a life lesson the hard way.
And even though I did forgive her by heart (without saying anything to her, because she didn't realize anything in the first place), I didn't forget the backstabbing incident. Memory cannot be erased; good or bad. And I have such a good memory, too! I couldn't deliberately push that memory into my subconsciousness, even if I wanted to so much.
I have, since then, become very careful in my relationship to her.
And deep inside my heart, I could never be the same Elyse again to her.
Maybe she did realize that I changed over time.
But as to what reason, she wasn't really clear.
C'est la vie.
And life goes on.
I'm still the same trustful Elyse, just maybe that quality decreases a bit.
